Prodigals

Supporting the Recovery Process

Supporting the Recovery Process

Different counselors or treatment specialists will disagree on the details or sequence of the “ideal” recovery process for a sexual addict and spouse. There is, however, broad agreement on the substance of the process. The recovery process we describe here reflects our approach in Prodigals International: a Christ-centered 12 Step program for the addict, and professional counseling and support group for the spouse. We do recommend professional counseling for the addict as well.

iStock_000013471240XSmallIn helping a sexually-addicted congregant recover, a distinction needs to be made between the role you play as pastor in the congregant’s recovery, and the role you might play in his/her restoration to full status in your fellowship (however you may define that). We would expect that you would play a primary role in the restoration process, especially if that involves some form of church discipline. However, we would encourage you to play an essential but supportive role in the congregant’s actual recovery. We mean “supportive” in the sense that you refer the congregant to Christian professionals and ministries who specialize in this type of recovery, and delegate most of the day-to-day recovery work to these specialists.
There are at least five distinct stages in sexual addiction recovery work.  

Each stage has specific tasks for the addict and the spouse. View our Recovery Process chart.